Would you be mad if your engagement ring turned out NOT to be a diamond?

Saturday, November 21st, 2009 | Marriage & Divorce

Hapa_Hottie asked:


My fiancee’s Mom, sister and I were hanging out when the sister accidently let it slip that my engagement ring is technically not a real diamond — it’s a moissanite stone.

I looked it up on the internet and basically moissanite looks like a diamond. here’s a pic: http://www.moissanite.com/

I took it to Kay Jewelers and they confirmed this. I love my ring, but feel weird about fiancee not mentioning it.

Should I tell him I know? Or just feign ignorance? Would you be mad if you were me or just keep loving the ring?

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15 Comments to Would you be mad if your engagement ring turned out NOT to be a diamond?

Poppet
November 24, 2009

I wouldn’t care.

Romi
November 26, 2009

Dont be mad. Its not the value of the stone that you are going to marry him for, its the love that the two of you share.
Cherish what is gave you with all his heart :-) that’s your most precious posession. Keep loving the ring bcoz there is a whole load of love behind it :-)

maccrew6
November 28, 2009

If you love the ring, what does it matter?? I have a real diamond engagement ring…. bought myself 2 ct fake from HSN and it sparkles more than the real thing! I wear the fake every day and have for the last 5 years! I think your sis iin law was just seeing if she could start trouble.. Keep an eye on her, she could wind up being a real bioootch in the future.

:P
November 29, 2009

Depends…. Did he say it was a diamond? If he did I would be pissed. If not, then keep loving the ring and one day joke about it just to let him know you know.

Lisa W
November 30, 2009

Its the meaning, not the price tag.

Kyle
December 3, 2009

Honey, you shouldn’t care if the man slips a shoe lace on your finger. The ring matters not, it’s the one who gives it to you who matters. I made a mistake like you’re making once and lost the dearest person in the world. Don’t make it about the ring, make it about the commitment to this man who thinks he wants to spend eternity with you!

Chris B
December 3, 2009

Maybe he could not effort the real thing. Tell him that you know what kind of a ring he gave you. Ask him why he did not get you the real deal.

Ahni
December 4, 2009

If he said it was a diamond that would be kind of annoying. I wouldn’t care about the rock, but I’d wonder why he felt he had to lie. Actually, I’d be happy if my fiance got something that looked like diamond but was cheaper, but it would be better if he was honest about it. He should realize that it’s the sentiment behind the ring that’s important, not it’s cost.

shaundord
December 5, 2009

i wouldn’t care

Evie
December 8, 2009

I’ve talked with my girlfriends about this in the past, and I was in the minority but it actually would not bother me if my ring was not a diamond.
HOWEVER, I do find it disturbing that he did not mention it to you and let you believe that it was a diamond. I would bring it up to him, but hopefully in a way where he won’t feel like it’s a big confrontation. I don’t think you need to feign ignorance since his sister let it slip, she may very well mention it to him if she realized she shouldn’t have said. Plus you may have wanted it insured or something. I just don’t think it’s a great precedent for him to not be honest…even if he didn’t say that it was a diamond, I think he had to know you’d have that impression.

tllew1
December 11, 2009

I doubt that I would be mad — I’ve never even had an engagement ring. My husband asked me to marry him, I said yes, and never gave having (or not having) a ring a thought. I married my husband, not a ring. We’ve been married more than 20 years now.

He did give me a gorgeous new diamond band for Christmas about 12 years ago. I never asked for it — it was his idea ….. I sure was shocked!

Keep loving that ring.

Sara
December 14, 2009

Maybe he was embarrassed/couldn’t afford it? I think moissanite’s look better than diamonds anyways. I wouldn’t care, like everyone else said “you marry the man not the ring.” Mine’s not real either, we haven’t been able to afford it, and it doesn’t bother me at all. I know he loves me.

michelle
December 14, 2009

I wouldn’t be mad about the ring not being a diamond, but I would be disappointed if my fiance had lied to me. I would definitely talk to him -not to recriminate about the ring- but to let him know that he doesn’t have to be embarrassed about not being able to afford a real diamond, that I absolutely love the ring and that he doesn’t have to hide anything like this from me ever again. I would, with no doubt, tell him how I found out, but I wouldn’t make him feel bad about the ring not being a diamond.

peter
December 17, 2009

Moissanite is not a cheap stone a lot of people are buying that stone. The ring is absolutely gorgeous. Appreciate the ring as a token of his true love for you. Maybe his sister was just trying to spoil it for you, she should have never let you know something about your ring that you didn’t know. Some people are just hateful sometimes. The next time your out with her and someone compliments you on your ring just say my mossanite just beautiful and you’ll have people running home to there pc’s to try and look up your beautiful stone.

Wishmaster
December 18, 2009

my husband made me an engagement ring out of pipe cleaners(you know the ones the kids use at school) and then he popped the question and put it on my finger. I thought it was the sweetest thing in the world. It’s a diamond and i love it. Other people may say thats not a diamond but just because its not an actual diamond doesn’t mean it isn’t one. The ring your fiancee gave you, he gave it to you out of love. Why do so many women need to have these expensive rocks on their fingers anyway. If you love him then it shouldn’t matter what the stone is made of, i’m actually shocked you would go as far as taking it to a jewellers to find out, you should have been happy with what he gave you.

Engagement rings need not always contain diamonds. Popular trends include using gemstones as sidestones as well as other precious stones.

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